Reaffirming point #36 in my forty takeaways last year:
Most of the people around me keep trying to tell me what's good for me or how I should use my money and resources without really wanting to listen to what I really want to do with them.
Their great plans are manifested in the monologue they have with me on whatsapp / wechat.
From these conversations, I can feel that they want me to 'agree' with them. Agreement means I nod, concur and tell them that what they say is correct. My points of view, my current circumstances are irrelevant.
They say never judge someone until you've walked a mile in their shoes.
So why should anyone impose what they think I should do just because it has worked for them, without truly being in my current position and going through what I have gone through? It's really absurd that these same people claim to have high EQ but they'd never really demonstrated empathy and asked me the simple question of: "What are your plans?" or "What do you want to do?"